Valentines Day Stiff 2019

Do you allow society to force you how to behave?

2/14/2019 Update:

Doing things “just because everyone else is,” is not a mentality that guarantees your survival – and it’s important to shine the beacon of truth despite general societal ignorace.

Giving should never be forced

(Article originally published January 19, 2007…)

antivalentine.jpgI’ll probably catch some flack for this, but hey, I’ll admit it: I’m not too keen on “forced” holidays.

I believe that if you really care about someone, you’ll show it in your own way, and on your own schedule. If you’re a real friend, lover, relative or sibling, you’ll be true all year round, and that is what I feel is more important than anything, not just a few days a year. You don’t have to give the best, most expensive, and elaborate gift to show someone you care. All that does is show that you’re a good gift-giver!

Now that time of the year is coming around that is somewhat stressful for many people. Valentine’s Day. On this commercial holiday, some people get engaged and others even break up because they didn’t get a fancy (fill in the blank: arrangement, dinner, romantic trip, jewelry). Many people in the workplace compare notes and brag to one another. Some kind of Olympic event of “who got the best/biggest/nicest.”

Like a brain-washed “Synchronized gift-giving” event that validates your existence on earth. What is unique about doing the same thing everyone else is doing? Why do most people feel pressure and others don’t? I’ve seen instances where relationships get challenged due to some disappointing turn of events. People question their love for each other because of “failure to give the proper gift.” Crap, I say.

I can totally understand the social aspect of “fitting in” and just “doing it because” or “easier to get it over with, than catch shit from the S.O.,” but a true relationship should never be challenged by such instances. If it is, then I would presume it just wasn’t meant to be, and one should be happy it surfaced sooner rather than later. But the blatant commercialism of this “holiday” has reached epic proportions. Companies spend millions upon millions of dollars hiring the best ad execs to produce the most mind-melding commercials and print advertisements that practically hypnotize most people into believing it is absolutely necessary. “You better get your girlfriend this (jewelry, car, trip) or else she’ll be riding away nude on a horse into the sunset with Brad Pitt.”

It’s a losing cause, though, because I’m sure most people will disagree with me, and that’s all fine and dandy. But I ask those people: Is receiving a gift on a commercial holiday proof that someone cares about you? How do you know it’s sincere and not forced? Would you feel bad if you didn’t get anything? If so, why? Do some people just “want” so that they can “have?”

Anyway – If you are still hell-bent on Valentine’s Day, there is still hope. You have another year to fix your condition.

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Tuesday, February 15, 2011 5:43 pm


But I got flowers (not some fancy arrangement but a bouquet of one of my favorites– I have lots of favorites) and the reliving our first Valentine’s day seven years ago, and, um, I’m not returning any of it.

Nothing to barf about here :).

kooky kat
kooky kat
Monday, February 14, 2011 5:29 pm

HA! What a difference 4 years makes! We haven’t even talked about “going out” for Valentine’s Day!

I remember those chicks though. I would venture to guess they are all still single – and probably writing ariticles for 411 on how they can’t meet anyone because 98% of the population is undateable, or in today’s case – married or living with someone. 😈

Thursday, February 15, 2007 10:43 am

I dare you kooky kat

kooky kat
kooky kat
Thursday, February 15, 2007 9:42 am

I had to work late last night, so I met my boyfriend at the usual spot for a couple of drinks and a bar pie. I decided that V-Day was invented to torture single women. There were several different groups of girls (now, I used to do this also when I was single!) at the bar, yap yap yapping! I actually asked my bf at one point, do you dare me to go tell those 3 the reason they don’t have an S.O. is because they are LOUD and annoying?! ARGH.

Can someone explain to me why people in conversations have to talk so loudly? I could hear every word one of these girls was saying. It was like this:

“Enough about me, lets talk about what do YOU think about me.”


Wednesday, February 14, 2007 11:15 pm

[quote comment=”13803″]There’s some stone out there, moissanite, that’s 1/10 the cost of diamonds and look JUST like them. I say “screw diamonds” and get me a nice big moissanite ring. I mean, if no one knows the difference who cares? I certainly don’t.

Kudos on your understanding of real value. However I’m afraid your opinion might be in the minority.

Several weeks back I had this discussion with this woman (admittedly she’s a bit of a daddy’s girl) on the topic of manufactured diamonds. These are the kind which are structurally identical (but without flaws) but cost a small fraction of debeers output.

She told me in all seriousness that the COST of the rock was the true measure of its value – even if the cost is artifically high due to false scarcity. Ironically, this discussion came on the heels of the topic of the movie Conflict Diamonds, and the child slavery often employed by mining companies. Predictably, she was untroubled by the thought of owning something with a likelihood of dubious origin.

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