Hoboken seems big to some residents


Choosing geographically convenient mates?

We’ve all heard the phrase “long distance relationships don’t work.”

But could that ever apply in Hoboken?

Geographically challenging relationships in Hoboken NJ - Hoboken seems big to some residents

Yes, distance matters to some

I’ve had many friends in the city (NYC) that actually chose the mates they were “geographically convenient” to. No matter whether it was a walk, subway trip or cab ride, the general consensus was that “half an hour” was a very legitimate cut-off to determine whether a girlfriend or boyfriend was worth staying with. In some cases the “hotness” factor allowed that cut-off zone to be extended somewhat – but also allowed for easier breakups if a long-distance was involved during tumultuous times.

Believe it or not – I’ve actually heard similar circumstances from many people here in Hoboken – which is a semi-suburban, less than 30 minute walk end to end! From both friends, acquaintances and “Overheard in Hoboken,” some people actually think that a boyfriend or girlfriend may be “too far away” here in the mile square city. I’ve heard sentiments such as:

  • – “She doesn’t live in my neighborhood, where I hang out.”
  • – “He’s on the other end of town, it’s too far…”
  • – “He’s too far from the PATH Station” (I heard bus stop too)
  • – “It’s boring where he lives.”

Are you kidding me?

Have people gotten so lazy, complacent, comfortable with everything at their doorstep that they can’t move around the very tiny city of Hoboken without being inconvenienced? I was very surprised to hear this once, but this subject has been coming to the surface more and more as of late.

A story was published back in 2009 about the Hobokenite’s Four-Block Radius Syndrome – and how many residents seem to keep things tight to where they live – and hardly venture out to see this easily explorable town (easy for me to say because it’s my job) – but still. How hard is it to walk from one end of town to the other?

I would hope I’m not speaking about the majority here – but when you overhear other phrases like “the gym is too far” (hello? free cardio to get to the gym where you’re working out anyway?), your mind starts wondering what is happening to the people of our fine city, state and country.

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Wednesday, August 18, 2010 3:08 pm

Translation: “You’re so lame in the sack, I’d rather masturbate than walk a few blocks for a booty-call”

Wednesday, August 18, 2010 11:33 am

I agree with drdrool in that people use distance as an excuse, especially men. Folks, just man up and be honest! If you are not into someone, just say so. Love should have no area codes.

Tuesday, August 17, 2010 11:12 pm

There’s also the part about missing your significant other. When my husband and I dated, we lived on opposite ends of town. And so we got to miss each other in between dates.

Have to have that balance of seeing each other and not.

Tuesday, August 17, 2010 11:07 pm

If I were still dating, I would actually prefer to explore a relationship with someone who does NOT live within a 4-block radius of my home. If the relationship doesn’t work out, then I’d feel like there’s less of a chance of running into an ex if, for example, he lives on 14th/Clinton and I live on 1st/Washington.

I’ve seen the awkwardness stemming from run-ins with the exes happen to other people, and it doesn’t seem fun.

Tuesday, August 17, 2010 10:58 pm

This makes 0 sense. If you live too close to each other then you could consider it an attempt at smothering no? If Forrest Gump can jog acorss and back the USA 8 times to show his love for Jenny and world peace, then walking or taking a cab from 1st and Adams to 13th and Hudson seems like a no brainer 😀

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