Forced Holidays

The many layers behind forced holidays

I loathe “forced holidays” more than any of you can possibly believe. But being a publication to some degree almost makes it mandatory to bring them up at some point. Sure, it can be in our own unique way (such as this editorial), but we wish that wasn’t the case. In an ideal world for us – all forced holidays would just go away.

But there are many facets to the various forced holidays that exist in today’s world.

How many of you actually think about them? Or do you just play along like obedient slaves?

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Forced holidays are essentially social conditioning

Most people these days almost “obey” the rules. Whether they’re rules of “law,” or social mores, or “traditions” that have “always been.”

forced holidays social conditioningHow many of you actually take three seconds or more to think about them? Wonder about their origin? Or who benefits (“cui bono?”)

So what are these forced holidays exactly?

The worst offenders are truly “manufactured” holidays. Number one is Valentine’s Day. What a God damn waste of money across the board. And it’s also a waste of emotional stress as well.

Additional offenders include Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Grandparents Day, and a slew of others like Halloween, Arbor Day, Mardi Gras, Cinco de Mayo, and more.

And to make matters worse – almost every day of the year has some kind of “day” attached to it. Like the recent Stuffed Mushroom Day, Chocolate Fondue Day and Send a Card to a Friend Day.

Why can’t the majority of people just wake up and realize there are dotted lines behind each day? And they all have one thing in mind: your money.

Generations of indoctrination are partly to blame

The “major” forced holidays (like Valentine’s Day) are solidly in place thanks to generations of indoctrination. It is irrelevant whether we explore the origin of these holidays in this editorial.

The fact of the matter is that it has become an “essential” obligation for millions of people.

How did an entire globe of individuals allow this to happen? Why? “Because that is how it was always done?” Really?

In regards to Valentine’s Day specifically – how did society as a whole just simply allow this PRESSURE to be put on “ourselves?” (That is what it boils down to).

Billion-dollar marketing via “mainstream media” is most likely the No. 1 culprit. Decades of repetitive messages pretty much won the battle. Via TV or print advertisements, themes in shows or movies, product placements, and now social media. Aisles of red boxes of chocolates. Restaurant reservations. Expensive jewelry (and the gorgeous couples ready to fornicate because of some “bling.”)

How can all couples across the world be on good terms on the same day every year? And why force it? It almost invalidates the other person’s contributions to a relationship if they DON’T participate in the game? Why?

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Comparison between recipients is why it’s a losing proposition

Without this forced holiday called “Valentine’s Day,” your significant other (most likely a woman), would treat that day like any other. She would (hopefully) value the attributes you bring to the relationship. Your strength. Your knowledge. The nice things you do all year long (unprovoked). Your reliability. Your outlook on life and all the other skills you voluntarily share with another person.

forced holidays valentines day good luck with one roseHowever, with this forced holiday – a new element has made an appearance: comparison, pecking order and bragging rights.

Women in the office compare their “gifts” in the most superficial way. One girl looks at another. They gossip about “what they got.” One girl may get a dozen roses. Another may get an expensive necklace. Then to trump all other ladies in the office – one might get a five-figure engagement ring!

Even if you spent $1000 on that necklace – your stupid girlfriend will think about that engagement ring the OTHER girl got ALL DAY LONG. And guess what? When that bitch gets home – your dumb jewelry gift will be the furthest thing from her mind. She just wants that diamond ring. You lose, thanks to that other asshole who trumped you!

How is this a good holiday again?

“Validation” or “Rejection”

See, I’m not the only one that has continually fought off the messages contained in these holidays. Heck, there are some (very smart) couples out there that DO “get it.” They refuse to play these superficial games – and live happy, productive and fulfilling lives. Sadly, though, this is the very small minority of couples who kick materialism and social pecking order to the curb. The rest are mired in this endless cycle of tacky consumerism.

I just think it’s quite sad that some people actually NEED the interaction in order to feel “validated” as a human being. And if they don’t get to “play along” like the rest of the sheep, they actually feel REJECTED or depressed.

All because they cannot connect the dots.

The “good” is easily forgotten

good guys finish last during forced holidays like valentinesWhat bothers me almost more than all the other superficial crap – is that many relationships either endure unnecessary conflict (fights, depression, even cheating!) or simply just END because of it.

While I would say “good riddance” to anyone that has broken up with me because of this holiday and how I choose to ignore it – it’s just a shame, that’s all (isn’t that a song?)

Any couple that allows any superficial holiday to come between them should be ashamed of themselves. Especially if the relationship was solid otherwise. Like I said above, if one part of the couple was so dependent on this holiday of validation – then sure – maybe it’s better off that they part ways. But I’d be more concerned that they’d allow something so shallow into their lives.

If you’re in a relationship that is dependent on these kinds of days and nothing else- it is clearly time to move on. And I don’t care if you’re a bond-trader that makes seven or eight figures. And your current partner is a “hottie” (9 or 10). Or you get tons of other shit “on the side.” I promise you 100% you will meet a level of unhappiness eventually. Just take my word for it. NOW.

“Go along with it?”

Some men may proclaim that it’s “easier to play along rather than fight the power…” Well – to you guys, all I have to say is “enjoy being BETA.”

You’ll never achieve “Alpha Male” status ever in your life.

Because if “playing along” is your solution to happiness – then you will never be a strong individual. You’re stuck being a cog in someone else’s wheel. Not your own. Sorry, but that is the truth you’ll never be able to acknowledge or admit (or comprehend for that matter).

But I do have faith in humanity.

Maybe not today or this decade – but these days of collective celebration about “nothing” will eventually come to an end. And the rise of individuality will make a comeback.

Unfortunately – there will be other prices to pay – but it may very well be worth it!

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The Professor
The Professor

Cupid’s arrow hit someone where I work and they brought in Valentines’ Boston creme doughnuts with festive sprinkles. Though this is surely a forced holiday and someone spent money, I have to admit it was not without a lot of appreciation here.

sassy lassie
sassy lassie

I agree with Hoboken 411 that forced holidays are not so great. However, I would add the caveat that both parties should either agree, or it should be celebrated. When the honoree of the holiday DOES want to celebrate it, that can make it upsetting it is getting completely unrecognized. Imagine if you wanted to celebrate Mother’s Day and your husband didn’t help your kids pick your a few flowers or paint a picture? What is the harm in that?