Is Hoboken anti-gay?

Should Hoboken be responsible for bigotry in the community?

Hoboken resident Matthew sent this message to city director of public safety Jon Tooke.

Being gay, he believes that the city should know about some apparent anti-gay sentiment that’s going around and something should be done about it.

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Letter: Gays are harassed in Hoboken, NJ

“Dear Director Jon Tooke,

As you are well aware of, there is a large contingency of gay and lesbian citizens living in Hoboken, all of whom came to this town to live perfectly quiet lives in this historical and fun town.

Recently, several close friends, and myself, all on different dates, have been harassed and or followed for several blocks with anti gay slurs and profanity.

I have loosely mapped out that the majority of occurrences happen starting at 14th street, proceed down the entire length of Washington Street, loop around at the PATH and go up both River street and Pier A Park, stopping at Stevens Institute.

With our proximity to NYC, and their recent overwhelming increase in hate crime/anti gay attacks, combined with the fact that Hoboken has the largest bar per street ratio in the country, I do not think that this should be ignored.

Hoboken should show solidarity with NYC in their stance on bigotry, hate crimes and intolerance. Public safety is a prime concern in Hoboken, especially when bars let out and when people return from the city late at night (prime hours 1-3 am, and 4-6 am).

As a survivor of hate crimes and a gay man living in Hoboken, this subject can not be ignored.

Residents need to know that they can be safe at all hours walking on the streets of Hoboken.

Hoboken is known to be the home of many cultures, races, and ethnicities. To ignore the safety of a group that branches into all the communities of Hoboken would be irresponsible.

A public display of solidarity with NYC on this subject Would be a great start. A follow up should be a window sticker promoting tolerance, making a statement that bigotry and hatred are not welcome in Hoboken.

I have noticed that many business owners do not put up gay pride door stickers showing support because they are afraid of the communities response. This is a falsehood that needs to be erased. Ignorance, hatred, and bigotry should not be cultivated by fear, but fought with support and love in your community.

Please take what I have said to heart and address this issue of public safety.”

Do you think the city should be responsible for controlling societal behavior?

Or should government stay out of the way of individuals?

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35 Comments on "Is Hoboken anti-gay?"

Hoboken Designer
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Hoboken Designer

So Gay Pride NYC and NJ is now over. Has anyone encountered any more bigotry or instances in or around hoboken either during the day or late night?

Hoboken Designer
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Hoboken Designer

@ Joe
I think you are missing the point of this whole thread. were talking about how to make it safer, what steps to take, and community awareness. Its not a decision about what floats ones boat but about community safety and intolerance towards bigotry, no matter who it is aimed at.

joey maxim
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joey maxim

designer,again,contrare..coimmunity? has nothing to do with explotation of wjat has been going on for years in boy @ girlscout troops. some are who and what they are ,but there is no reason to shout it on a hilltop.. As I said different folks different strokes..What ever makes for the media.Such as two fold bigotry,no prayer in school,Gods name off our currencry,not saluting the flag in school.taking down a large cross somewhere in the south western area of the usa ,saluting vets from all wars.My point is if im gay I don’t have to pin a sign on my back to boast about it..Lets not even go into religious leaders of there man made religions who abused members of their congregation as well as the catholic church…If you consider making a community safe and aware back up about 60 years..Your opinion is respected but the topic is nothing new.The media eats it up and the public can areee or disagree..Just an opinion..no disrespect to you or any one else.[quote comment=”220877″]@ Joe I think you are missing the point of this whole thread. were talking about how to make it safer, what steps to take, and community awareness. Its not a decision about what floats ones boat but about community safety and intolerance towards bigotry, no matter who it is aimed at.[/quote]

Hoboken Designer
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Hoboken Designer

btw, I dont think the writer of the letter intended any kind of promotion or anything. Obviously he didn’t know about laws or anything like that. I think it was just a knee jerk reaction to what was happening around him. I am glad he did though, as odd as the letter was, b/c it opened up this dialogue. would you have the balls to write, much less submit such a letter? think about that.

Hoboken Designer
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Hoboken Designer

Hey guys, so out of curiosity I spoke with the Hoboken PD about this post and what people, any group, gay lesbian straight, latino or otherwise should do. The Detective I spoke to said that anyone getting heckled, harassed, followed or any biased activity should call the Hoboken PD and report it. Thats it. They take biased crimes very seriously, its not a gay thing, straight thing, or anything, its a community thing.

See something, say something! it’s that simple.

The fact that we ignore it, let it roll off our shoulders, blame it on the frats or influx from NYC is besides the point. This is our town, and this stuff doesn’t stand, no matter what the circumstance. Standing up in public is one thing, standing up late at night with no one around is something else and can be dangerous, and all actions are dangerous when alcohol is involved. If you are silent, then the cops cant do, plan, or develop anything to help you feel safe.

See something, say something!

joey maxim
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joey maxim

designer wisen up..what ever floats your boat..just don’t ram it down throats. I would never join the scouts with my undies backwoods..wait till the browine shit comes out..this has been going on for years..now we are all united..xoxo[quote comment=”220862″]Hey guys, so out of curiosity I spoke with the Hoboken PD about this post and what people, any group, gay lesbian straight, latino or otherwise should do. The Detective I spoke to said that anyone getting heckled, harassed, followed or any biased activity should call the Hoboken PD and report it. Thats it. They take biased crimes very seriously, its not a gay thing, straight thing, or anything, its a community thing.See something, say something! it’s that simple.The fact that we ignore it, let it roll off our shoulders, blame it on the frats or influx from NYC is besides the point. This is our town, and this stuff doesn’t stand, no matter what the circumstance. Standing up in public is one thing, standing up late at night with no one around is something else and can be dangerous, and all actions are dangerous when alcohol is involved. If you are silent, then the cops cant do, plan, or develop anything to help you feel safe.See something, say something![/quote]

briank
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briank

Other than an old fashioned anti gay vibe, I can’t decipher this. Did you start your Memorial Day drinking a little early? [quote comment=”220866″]designer wisen up..what ever floats your boat..just don’t ram it down throats. I would never join the scouts with my undies backwoods..wait till the browine shit comes out..this has been going on for years..now we are all united..xoxo[/quote]

joey maxim
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joey maxim

Contrare,not anti gay at all . . Again whatever floats one’s boat. [quote comment=”220871″]Other than an old fashioned anti gay vibe, I can’t decipher this. Did you start your Memorial Day drinking a little early?[/quote]

joey maxim
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joey maxim

one thing for sure,maybe we can be foxhole buddies in the military.. there was a song years ago ( when our hearts were young and gay) will the aclu change that title? again what ever enhances ones fantasy..If god ment for double dip he would have made two adams and two eves….Just comments and opinions..don’t take it to heart..hugs and u go easy on the sause..Never bbq naked ,and memorial day is for those who died to allow you the right to defend gays…wack jobs ,libs aclu and all those who grace our once was a great country…huggy poo to you briank a dink..all have opinions .again not against gays as it’s called today..to repeat don’t ram it down other peoples throats,,enjoy memorial day. 💡 :mrgreen: [quote comment=”220872″]Contrare,not anti gay at all . . Again whatever floats one’s boat.[/quote]

joey maxim
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joey maxim

a reminder..according to the photos on the website some of these kids girls n boys r preteen ..they don’t even have a choice with the scout masters male and female..Just kids and thank the aclu and the rainbow troop…no choice just their way or the highway..enjoy.[quote comment=”220866″]designer wisen up..what ever floats your boat..just don’t ram it down throats. I would never join the scouts with my undies backwoods..wait till the browine shit comes out..this has been going on for years..now we are all united..xoxo[/quote]

MidnightRacer
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Trash cans constantly get harassed, and even worse they get tackled, thrown up against walls or dragged into the street. I’ve personally witness a guy abuse a can across from my previous residence, apologize profusely afterwards, then spoon it saying he loved that can. Will promotion change his behavior, or are some born that way?

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