Resolutions in Hoboken?
[This post is part of the “A Love Affair with Hoboken” series written by resident Lara Kaplan Hanson…]
Resolutions for 2011
By Lara Kaplan Hanson
How many people actually do New Year’s resolutions? I remember working on my resolutions in college and getting into a big argument with my good friend, Tom. “Why do you need to make resolutions?” he exclaimed irritated. “I don’t need to, I only want to improve myself,” I defended. “Why can’t you just be happy with who you are?”
“I AM HAPPY with who I am, but I can always be better!!! If I settle for the person I am today, than in fifty years I will still be the same person, and the years will have been pointless. In that case, I could just kill myself today!!!!” Like a young kid poking a stick through the lion’s cage, I enjoyed stirring the pot with my republican friend and foe.
Resolutions through the years
My early resolutions, in middle school and high school, were vague: “get better grades, improve my shooting percentage on the basketball court, and write more.” Unlike a historian, I look back at the breadcrumbs in my life for laughter not explanation. It’s amusing to occasionally pause and reflect how one’s life has transpired.
In college, my resolutions matured when an assistant basketball coach added a twist. Instead of nondescript items, she wanted our resolutions broken out into categories: basketball and personal, then three ways we would accomplish each goal. The resolutions went from “improve shooting” to “my shooting will improve because I will take an additional 1000 shots a day, raise my bench max by 15 pounds, and cut my mile time by 30 seconds.” She was ingenious. It wasn’t just about goals, she was giving us a recipe for how to achieve them.
Post college I kept the same strategy, but the categories evolved into: intellectual, physical, and spiritual. Don’t worry, I’ll save you the mundane laundry list of this year’s resolutions, and rather include two centered around Hoboken…
Two Hoboken Resolutions coming right up!
First Hoboken resolution: try a new bar, restaurant, or store every week. With 4 weeks in a month and 12 months in a year, that will give me a little less than 50 attempts in town to discover more local flavor. The second resolution is a bit more complex, but here it goes…
Did you know Hoboken was voted the number one town in the country for singles who are thirty? My married friends, Dan and Sharon, encouragingly pointed this out as a new single in town. At the time, I was 27, just out of a LONG relationship, and dismissed their point. I didn’t want a boyfriend, but instead invested all my time in traveling.
Well, guess who is single and almost thirty now? Yup, I said it. Me!!!
See the rest of her almost-30 adventures after the jump…
Give love a chance (again)
I know a modern girl is never supposed to admit either, but to hell with convention. I’m not letting any ridiculous old cliches put me out to pasture!!! All that said, I am reinstating dating, and giving love a chance. Yes, you read correctly, I used that word girls in a post-feminist society aren’t supposed to want or say aloud: LOVE. While, I’m not sure if I believe in love (as I always equated it to the likes of Santa Claus), I figure it can’t hurt to test the charade. My friend Justin and I had this great conversation at McMahon’s one night about how 99% of the world is un-dateable, and while I agree with him – I figure why not give hope to that 1% chance.
My spiritual life counsel and good friend, Paige, says me “you get back what you put out into the world” – and in the realm of love I rarely crack the door. The baggage of a divorced family set an early reality check, and my last relationship only compounded the point. However, I hate excuses for failure, hence I am resolving to put away the crutches, and test the singles market in Hoboken. Logically, I can’t help but predict failure given the dating horror stories that flood the urban world, but I am attempting to manifest into someone a bit more open minded. Giving nod to my coach’s methods I have:
- signed up for online dating site (yes, I’m admitting it – but not telling you which one…lol)
- going to try and find a speed dating event (this sounds hysterical)
- will attempt a singles social mixture in town (sounds slightly promising)
While all three of these ideas make my stomach turn and give me anxiety, I figure there is not much to lose besides my dignity. (Not that I ever held this in great esteem to begin with. But, before I begin this journey of the great dating abyss, I would like to wish everyone a Happy New Year. Good luck to everyone with your resolutions. May you stick with them longer than a week, and I’ll be sure to keep you posted on the dating scene in Hoboken.)
I’m going to do some research about what restaurants to try out in Hoboken. If you have any suggestions about restaurants/bars and what dishes are best – let me know!!!
Thanks for reading, Happy Holidays & Stay Warm!!!