Domestic Violence: What to do?
Love stinks, yeah yeah!
One of the more frequent calls overheard on the Hoboken411 Live Police and Fire Action Channel – are for domestic violence. Whether it’s your regular boyfriend / girlfriend (or husband and wife) domestic disputes, to drunken incidents with crazy ex’s and restraining orders – there’s always trouble in paradise to some degree. Quite a few disputes are also between family members, parents, nutty teenagers and the like.
Hoboken411 reader Darren, who recently moved to town, isn’t used to hearing incidents of this nature and wonders what protocol is.
When to get involved, and how?
“My fiancée and I moved to Hoboken in late 2008 and we’re renting in a newer large condo building. Our neighbors are young professionals and families with young kids. We’re on the third floor, with places above and below, and on both sides. It’s actually not so loud, though I know that the walls are pretty thin because I can hear the dog next door that barks sometimes, and a loud weekend party upstairs, etc.
A few months ago, though, new neighbors started making these walls feel way too thin. We began hearing fights next door, usually late at night when we are about to go to sleep. The voices have been muffled, but we can tell that they are fighting, and sometimes it sounds like furniture is being shoved or maybe things are getting thrown around or broken. In my opinion, that’s their own business. My fiancée, though, got worried last night (apparently it was worse than usual). She woke me up and wanted to call the cops, and plans to next time she hears a similar disturbance. Personally, I don’t want to get involved.
We moved from the suburbs of D.C. where our neighbors were also young professionals and families, but we weren’t really stacked together in such close quarters. It’s possible there were incidents like this we just didn’t hear. My question is: is this issue just a normal part of Hoboken city living that we didn’t experience previously? Has anyone else experienced this type of thing? And, if so, should we ignore it or intervene by reporting it to the police?”
What do you do when you notice possible acts of violence?