Lost: Common Courtesy

5/1/2008:

[Note: This is a Hoboken411 reader contributed article. There will be one or more “reader articles” each day this week.]

With the number of “rude” and “selfish” people seemingly on the rise, Hoboken411 reader “cheaphobo” has this to say about common courtesy.

Lost: Common Courtesy

hoboken-common-courtesy.jpgWhen did it become okay to be mean?

All too often you read postings online and what started as a true debate of ideas turns into nothing more than name calling. Have we so quickly forgotten the lesson hopefully taught to us by our parents that said “If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all?” I completely support the right to free speech. Useful criticisms and disagreeing thoughts are helpful. I even appreciate the sarcastic comment here and there. But sadly these get overwhelmed by comments that are just meant to be cruel.

Is it that being online gives one a sense of being anonymous? I can be mean and hurtful to others since they do not know who I am? Part of me would like to believe this is the sole reason but sadly the loss of common courtesy is not just on the internet but extends into our every day lives and interactions.

How often do you see the girl flirt her way to the front of the bus line cutting off the 20 people who have been waiting forever? Or the guy who completely looks you in the eye as the elevator door shuts. Why? Do people really think they are more important than the others around them? Have we forgotten what it is like to do the nice/right thing? I am not looking to live on a hippie commune but I just think our town would be a better place to live if we all just took a second to be more courteous to others, online and on the streets.

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89 Comments on "Lost: Common Courtesy"

dawnrose
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dawnrose

“Thank You” Litterboken I appreciate that.

Litterboken
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Litterboken

[quote comment=”83743″]Oh Well Okay: You’re right I never should have went against my instincts.[/quote]

as a courtesy to you, let me correct your grammar. “gone against”, not “went against”. You are welcome.

dawnrose
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dawnrose

Oh Well Okay: You’re right I never should have went against my instincts.

oh well okay
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oh well okay

[quote comment=”83632″]There is no common courtesy on this board.[/quote]

what are you still doing here after your big farewell speech?

Journey
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Journey

[quote comment=”83648″]i know it will provoke a huge outcry – i know – but maybe common courtesy was lost by people not looking in the mirror. by people believing that it’s ok – just because you disagree with the policies of someone like Bush or whoever – to attack the PERSON in a violent, reactionary, unsubstantiated way, while maintaining no respect for the office or institutions. maybe it’s lost when people become cynical but offer no viable alternatives. maybe it’s lost when people are so audacious as to think that ONLY NOW have things been “this bad,” when there are plenty of people throughout time who have felt equally as much disdain for the people you hold dear, yet stilll maintained a love of america.
maybe then.[/quote]

Personally I don’t see courtesy as having anything to do with having a love of country.

It has to do with thinking about what you say and accepting responsibility for what you say and do. It also has to do with acknowledging that you are part of community, that there are other people around you.

People think what they say online has no consequence, no repercussions, and nothing to be responsible for. People on the street are too busy trying to isolate themselves that they feel no connection to strangers, no respect for strangers and feel no responsibility for how their actions effect others.

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